Cancer Honor Wall

Letters to the Careys

July 17, 2012

For every breast cancer diagnosis there is a wife, mom, daughter, sister, aunt – that has a loved one pulling and praying for their well-being. After just a few months of being a new – uhm, “face” – in breast cancer awareness, we have met so many wonderful people that want to honor a loved one by sharing their story. We’ve heard stories about all types of cancers – its triumphs and so many courageous journeys. They have all touched our hearts. We are especially proud to be an inspiration to the husbands, sons and other men in the lives of the women that are diagnosed with breast cancer.

Some of our readers have helped bring smiles by sending in their creative pictures for our Honor Wall. In recognition of those who have been touched by cancer, we also present these notes and letters in the COMMENTS below.  Those labeled as “Facebook posts” are our favorites from Facebook messages or comments. We hope that it encourages everyone to share their story, a joke or journey. Every story and picture has the power to give courage to those touched by this disease. If you think you want to share more than a few short sentences in the COMMENTS below, feel free to contact us to talk about providing a guest blog entry that we can post.

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  • Facebook Post

    Dear Bob, I work at an arts immersion school for students with dyslexia and other learning challenges. Baltimore Lab School is an amazing place. Last Friday, 7 or 8 teachers donned tu tus for the day-just because. Unfortunately, no men dared to join us. The students were intrigued and asked us – why? The only reason was the inspiration for silliness and a need to lighten our day. This weekend, I was in Time Square saw you, snapped a photo for my tutu wearing colleagues, was handed a Tu Tu Project card and headed off to a reading of my friend’s play. When I logged on line last night, another friend had posted a link to your website on my FB wall. I love the synchronicity! We are moved by your vision and your work. Because of our folley, you now have about 20 more fans and HOPEFULLY donors. I am attaching the photo we took outside of our school in Baltimore [posted to the honor wall]. If you ever glissade through Mobtown, we’d love to don our tutus and show you around. Much Love, Marianne and the folks at Baltimore Lab School

    • Bob Carey

      Marianne, I love this story! Thank you so much for sharing it with me because you made my day. Synchronicity- I love it! All the best, Bob

  • Facebook Fan

    Love this project. My daughter-in-law sent me the link. She wouldn’t know but her father-in-law once donned a pink tutu for a fancy dress. He was diagnosed at 39 with terminal prostate cancer and died at age only 41. So the tutu probably has a connection for me. I work in Palliative Care in South Australia so know too well the devastation of breast cancer. My sister has also recently be diagnosed with the disease but is doing well. I applaud you for helping to make a difference. Thank you, Diane A.

  • Facebook Fans

    1st – i’m so incredibly grateful for your tutu viral awareness! – y’all are geniuses – be it by ingenuity, default or the grace of god…i just want you to know that appreciate y’all on a personal level – my husband and best friend for 10 years passed away from his battle with cancer 19 years ago july 5th – nobody knows until until you endure the battle – and our 2 kids still fight the fight – thank you! Robyn E.

    • Bob Carey

      I’m very sorry that you lost your best friend, I can’t begin to imagine how difficult that must have been. And I agree, no one can possibly imagine what it’s like until they experience it and here’s hoping “they” never have to.

      I think that it was a bit of ingenuity and the grace of god that has spread this project across the globe. We’ve been so amazed by the support sent our way! In the back of our minds I’m sure that we hoped it would go viral yet not really comprehending what that might mean. But here we go!

      Thank you for your kind words, Bob

  • We just saw you on the Today Show. What a great way to start our morning. Our daughter, Anna, is a 12 yr old just diagnosed 2 months ago with heart failure. She needs a transplant. We are using humor and positivity to get through this. She started her own project: Humor Heals the Heart: The Anna King Project.
    She loved your pictures, your segment & seeing another family take on a struggle with humor & grace. Many blessings to you and your beautiful wife. You will both be in our prayers.
    Anna’s mom, Pam King
    You can see Anna on FB or

  • But a smiling visitor here to share the love (:, btw outstanding style. “He profits most who serves best.” by Arthur F. Sheldon.

  • Jessica Nue

    One day when my brother was receiving chemo there was a circle of women receiving chemotherapy as well. I don’t know exactly for what type of cancer but at that point it didn’t matter. When a room is filled with both men and women fighting cancer, everyone is related. The women were situated in a semi-circle and all smiling at a little girl, who must have been at least five years old, wearing a purple tutu and twirling round and round, in the middle of circle without a care in the world. The sight of the girl alone was enough to make you smile. It was the smile on every woman’s face that made my brother and I look in awe and in wonder. We couldn’t tell which of the women there was the mother, grandmother, sister, aunt or friend of the little girl. Nor did it matter. They all smiled at her the way an adult smiles at a child when they start to relive their own childhood memories through that small human being. My brother had lost his battle with his cancer and had fought with grace and valiant effort. I never had the opportunity to talk to the little girl or with whom she was with. So if she or her family member happens to read this: Thank you little girl with the purple tutu. You made everyone in that circle (and room), including my brother and I, smile and get dizzily lost with you while you twirled and twirled and twirled.

    • The Tutu Project

      Thank you for posting this. Can we post it as a blog entry as one of our favorite “stories”?

      • Jessica Nue

        Yes and thank you for allowing me to share. And I thank you for all you have done.

  • I somehow saw your quote on Facebook and ended up in your website. Thank you for all the silliness you do,. Here’s my story to share.

  • Amy Kruse

    I just found you via the NPR article. I just finished chemo last week for Hodkin’s Lymphoma. I too have a rockin’ awesome hubby who has been a great emotional support for me and picking up all the extra stuff with our two young boys. I don’t think people realize how important it is to laugh at cancer. We shared many an irreverent joke together and I am so grateful to have someone to do that with – even with something as serious as cancer I’m just not good at taking things too seriously. So – of course I loved the tutu pics – they made my day! Thank you! Blessings to you both.

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